Immediately, I feel like I’ve lost all of our senior lawyers with this title, but please do bear with me – I know you know I sometimes like to write “touchy-feely” posts and frankly, they’re necessary in the legal industry. And these days, more than ever.
Well, vulnerability is an underestimated power. Leadership isn’t just about being in charge and making strategic decisions. It’s about cultivating a profound connection with your team, clients, and peers. And vulnerability is the key that unlocks the door to this meaningful connection.
In our hyper-competitive legal world, vulnerability is often perceived as a weakness. But I am daring to challenge that notion and inviting you to see it as a strength—a powerful tool for fostering trust and building authentic relationships.
As you know, I’m all about building authentic relationships. And again, that may SOUND touchy-feely, and it can be, but it also underpins the essential building blocks of your actual business – because clients work with those they know, like, and trust. Your referral sources send work to those they know, like, and trust. And in this ever-expanding world of technology, that personal connection is becoming more and more important.
So, what is vulnerability, exactly? Picture it as an open door, allowing others to glimpse your true self—your fears, insecurities, and struggles. It’s not about oversharing or displaying helplessness, but rather, it’s about displaying your humanity and acknowledging that you don’t have all the answers.
Here are some practical insights on embracing vulnerability and harnessing its potential in your leadership journey:
Self-Awareness is the First Step: Understand your emotions, triggers, and patterns. Knowing yourself deeply enables you to lead from a place of authenticity and integrity. By recognizing your vulnerabilities, you can guide others with empathy and compassion.
Empower Your Team: Encourage open communication and create a safe space for your team members to share their thoughts and ideas. A culture of trust promotes collaboration, creativity, and productivity. Remember, vulnerability is contagious; when you open up, others feel encouraged to do the same. You don’t even have to be in charge of a team to empower others – just be the person that other people around you can count on and open up to. Are you a safe space in your office? Do you leave your door open or is it always shut? Are you open or closed-minded? Are people comfortable around you? Don’t only ask yourself these questions, but find out from friends and trusted colleagues.
Learn from Failures: Every leader encounters setbacks and failures. Embrace these experiences as opportunities for growth and learning. By sharing your own journey through challenging times, you inspire your team to see failures not as roadblocks but as stepping stones toward success.
Listen with Empathy: A great leader doesn’t just hear; they actively listen. Demonstrate empathy and understanding when your team members express their concerns or challenges. Show that you care not just about their performance but about their well-being too. Particularly in these trying times, listening and leading with empathy could not be more important.
Encourage Feedback: Be open to receiving feedback from your team and clients. Create a culture where constructive criticism is welcomed, and suggestions are valued. This openness reinforces trust and demonstrates your willingness to learn and improve. We all know that sometimes difficult decisions need to be made and we’re not going to please everyone, but we can still have that open door where we discuss those decisions and allow people to talk through the reasons why they may be uncomfortable or upset about something.
Lead with Transparency: Transparency breeds trust. Be honest about your decisions, even when they are difficult ones. People respect leaders who are authentic and straightforward, even when the truth is uncomfortable.
Seek Support: Remember, you don’t have to do it all alone. Connect with mentors, peers, or coaches who can provide guidance and encouragement. Acknowledging that you can’t have all the answers is a sign of wisdom, not weakness. Having a network of strong people around me has been one of the greatest gifts I’ve ever given myself, and it’s made me both a better leader and a better person.
As legal professionals, we strive to be pillars of strength, but let us also embrace our vulnerability as a means of human connection and genuine leadership. By nurturing this authentic aspect of ourselves, we create a network of trust and understanding that enables us to thrive both personally and professionally.
Thank you for joining me on this exploration of vulnerability in leadership. Until next time, keep networking with mindfulness, compassion, and an open heart. What other ways have you embraced vulnerability as a leader?